Be Happy

Just a quick thought as my son AJ goes off to take his very last final exam as an undergraduate at Georgia Tech....

The Other Side of Fear

Each Tuesday, I receive a quote "Ocean of Dharma-the Everyday Wisdom of Chögyam Trungpa " from Shambhala Publications.  This week's quote really got me thinking.

THE OTHER SIDE OF FEAR

Going into your fear is like going through a fog. The key is whether you’re regarding what you experience as simply something real or instead as monumental entrapment, imprisonment. If you panic further, you breed cowardice. If you don’t, then you just have an experience of fear. It’s a matter of invoking fundamental confidence. If you are able to join fear and uncertainty with genuine confidence, then you will come through to the other side. Dealing with the two sides of the coin in yourself is difficult, but it can be done. You discover a further commitment to working with yourself and a further feeling of connection in your life.

I've had panic attacks before. I've spent most of my life worrying about things I can not control. Learning (and it's a constant, ongoing process) to drop "all that" which is out of my control has been one of the greatest gifts Buddhism has given me.

I love this analogy of fear as a fog. Fear is a feeling, not a fact. Working WITH these emotions, instead of hiding FROM them, is life-changing...life-affirming....life-enriching.

I choose not to hide from fear, but to go toward it, to embrace it, to realize that, like all emotions, it is a fleeting thing and will pass. I try to stay in the present moment, realizing that these experiences called "life" make me utterly human, and connect me with every other living being on the planet.  That I can use my experiences to have compassion for others. 

How do YOU deal with fear?  

Useful?

I was ironing my pants this morning. (Oh, stop that...if you know me well, you know I LOVE to iron.)

I am proud to admit that they are NEW pants.  New because I have lost some 25 pounds and needed smaller clothes before the cruise.  But that's another post.

So there I was, ironing...and I realized that the back pockets were still seamed down...so I opened them up.

Have I missed something in recent fashion?

This pocket is 2 inches deep. Now I usually don't use back pockets for anything, but if you are going to have them, shouldn't they be deep enough to put SOMETHING in them?

What would YOU put in a 2 inch deep pocket?  What COULD you put in a 2 inch pocket?

Jewish Mother Computer Guilt

Blogger has a fabulous way of letting one know that one is remiss in posting to one's blog....

I had to verify my account.

I have this stereotypical Jewish mother voice rattling around inside my head "What? You can't find 10 minutes to tell me what's going on in your life?  I mean so little to you that you can't be bothered to write a little post?"

Okay, Okay...

It's been a crazy 6 weeks or so.  When I dubbed this year "Just Wing It"-- I had no idea I would be speaking that phrase aloud several times a week....

So what's been going on in my life?  Well, I made the "big move" (well, as big a move as one can make when one packs a smartCar) to Louisiana in January.   I call it "the big move" because I moved the desktop Mac and my wardrobe.  I also changed the addresses on my few print magazines.

Yes, this is how I declare my official residence...where the clothes and computer are.

"What are you doing in Louisiana?" is the question I am asked frequently.  Well, I stay busy--rather busy, to put it mildly.  I hit the gym nearly every morning for weights and/or swimming.  I had forgotten how much I love lap swimming- it is so much akin to meditation. The constant regular breathing, the weightless feeling in the water, the back and forth motion....

I can be found at The Needlepoint Shoppe (or Hanging By A Thread as the new name will be) for a few hours most days.  I love the inspiration of the store- and the warmth of friendship that inhabits the space since Stacy bought the shop almost a year ago.

Then there's the high school girlfriends who have morphed into the Wino Wednesday bunch.  What's not to like about wine and girlfriends (old and new) getting together at least once a week?

My mother has included me in just about everything she goes to--and anyone who knows my mom knows she is a dynamo of motion.  We've been to symphony concerts, operas, lectures, dinners, meetings, recitals.....a little bit of everything.

Oh, and then there was that 21-day cruise through the Amazon.....did I mention that?

So, yes, I have lots to tell...lots.

Did I mention that "THE WEDDING" is fast approaching?

Oh, yes, that little event...

And a college graduation....

And a debutante season for Alix....

And a cruise or two (TWO?)

Lots of things to document here in the cyberpages of Maison Cou Rouge.

So, Google and Blogger...remember who I am.
I don't need the guilt.

The Rules for Being Human

With my thanks to my lifelong friend Ed Galloway for posting this on Facebook...it's something I want to remember  now and in (a few years')  time...

1)  YOU WILL RECEIVE A BODY.  You may like it or not, but it will be yours for the entire period round.

2)  YOU WILL LEARN LESSONS.  You are enrolled in a full-time, informal school called "Life".
 Each day in this school, you will have the opportunity to learn lessons.  You may like the lessons or think them irrelevant or stupid.

3)  THERE ARE NO MISTAKES, ONLY LESSONS.  Growing is a process of trial and error, experimentation.  The "failed" experiments are as much a part of the process as the experiment that ultimately works.

4)  A LESSON IS REPEATED UNTIL IT IS LEARNED.   A lesson will be presented to you in various forms until you have learned it, then you can go on to the next lesson.

5)  LEARNING LESSONS DOES NOT END.  There is no part of life that does not contain lessons.    If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.

6)  "THERE" IS NO BETTER THAN "HERE".  When your  "there" has become "here",  you will simply obtain another "there", and that will look better than "here".

7)  OTHERS ARE MERELY MIRRORS OF YOU.   You can not love or hate something about another person unless it reflects to you something you love or hate about yourself.

8)  WHAT YOU MAKE OF YOUR LIFE IS UP TO YOU.    You have all of the tools and resources you need - what you do with them is up to you.  The choice is yours.

9)  THE ANSWERS LIE INSIDE YOU.  The answer's to life's questions lie inside you.   All you need to do is look, listen and trust.